Dear Captain Awkward,
I have a wonderful fiancée. She’s compatible with me in every single way and we’re looking forward to starting our lives together. Save one little thing. She’s possibly the worst driver in the world and I can’t get my license until awhile after the wedding for reasons I prefer not to get into.
She’s had multiple accidents. She regularly swerves into other lanes then can’t figure out how she got there. She follows far too closely–she’s under the impression that, at highway speeds, safe following distance is ‘you can see their wheels.’ She texts, Tumblrs, checks her email, all while driving.
I tried suggesting that we get her a dash mount for her phone so she can still use the GPS without having the distraction of phone-in-hand. She says she likes having it in her hand and won’t put it down.
She loves to drive, loves road trips and wants me to go road tripping with her. She’s absolutely convinced she’s an amazing driver and no amount of me trying to gently offer suggestions to correct her driving has managed to convince her she might have a problem. I’m absolutely terrified when she’s behind the wheel. I’m an excellent driver who took defensive driving courses before getting my full license as a proactive step, but, as stated, I cannot drive right now.
How do I get her to understand that I’m terrified she’s going to die in a fiery crash, without offending her?
Ruining the interior with my fingernails