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From Brooks in the Bay Area:

Hi! I’m arranging a meetup in the San Francisco Bay Area this weekend,
specifically in the peninsula / south bay.

Date: Sunday, August 9th, 2015
Time: 1:00 p.m.
Place: Pioneer Memorial Park (between City Hall and the library) in
Mountain View.

If you’re coming via public transit, the easiest way is probably going
to be to get to Caltrain via whatever makes sense in your area (BART to
Millbrae, Muni to 4th and King in San Francisco, VTA Light Rail in San
Jose, etc.) and then go to the Mountain View Caltrain station. It’s
five blocks from the station to the park; there are busses, but it’s
also a nice walk through downtown with lots of shops.

The park has several benches and nice tiny grass hills for putting
picnic blankets on, and lots of shade trees. I will bring my lunch and
some picnic blankets; feel free to eat before you get there, pack a
lunch if you’d like, stop by the Mountain View Farmers Market (9am –
1pm, at the train station parking lot) and get something from one of the
many vendors that sell tasty ready-to-eat things, or get something from
one of the many downtown restaurants.

The public restrooms at the library are unfortunately closed on Sundays,
but there is a cafe on the same block that is open, and all the downtown
restaurants have restrooms. I believe all the sidewalks in the park are
accessible for wheelchairs and the like.

I’m not sure exactly where in the park I’ll be sitting, but it’s a small
park and I’ll be somewhere visible from the central circle. I’m a
medium-height guy with shoulder-length brown hair, and I have a
patchwork pink/purple/orange/blue/yellow shirt that … well, I’m still
not at all sure what I think of it, but it’s certainly distinctive, so I
shall plan to wear that.

Feel free to email me at brooks dot moses at dpdx dot net if you have
questions.

Have a great time.

Ahoy there Captain!

So, there’s this super awkward couple that my gentleman and I are both acquainted with through a Meetup group I used to run. We used to be closer, but we’ve started distancing ourselves, because the closer we got, the more we saw that we didn’t really care to be around. For example, the she-half of the couple (Greta?) is extraordinarily passive aggressive… Greta’s catchphrase when addressing the he-half (Irving?) is, “IRVING!!! CAN YOU WASH THE DISHES *PLEEEEASE*????” Of course, in the snottiest tone she can muster. Irving, of course, is no prize himself… he’s a secret asshole, presenting as super-chill and totally laid back but having a sneaky side to him that is hella lazy and dismissive of anyone who may hold a different opinion.

So we moved them from Always Friends to Sometimes Friends, and made our excuses so that my gentleman could stop running a tabletop game that included them as participants (Greta had a bit of a habit of actively pouting (at age 30!) whenever things in the game didn’t go the way she wanted for her character, and Irving would always make excuses about ending the game early whenever she’d get in a funk, which started happening with exponential frequency). Following the end of the game, Greta blew up at me directly when I announced my exit from the Meetup group, demanding ownership and making a huge production about why we didn’t talk anymore. I snapped back at her that I didn’t appreciate her making something that was painful for me (the possible dissolution of my Meetup group) into a referendum on our friendship, and if she wanted to talk to me about the fact that we weren’t very close anymore, she could have chosen literally any other time.

We haven’t spoken much since then, and Greta hasn’t brought up our last real conversation at all. We’ve seen one another at other events and while everyone’s been polite, we haven’t had much contact. They recently sent us a Save The Date for their wedding, but when it came time for the bridal shower invites, I was snubbed (I had another event that day anyway, and I actively dislike bridal showers in general, so that was no hair off my backside). Now our mutual friends have received their wedding invites, and my gentleman and I have not.

On the one hand, my gentleman and I are not that into weddings. On the other hand, I think it’s rude as hell to send out a Save The Date and not follow up with an invitation. Part of me wants to contact Greta and Irving and let them know that they’re continuing to behave unacceptably, and if they miss us as much as they’ve made reference to towards our mutual friends, this is not the way to mend fences. Part of me is glad I don’t have to buy them a Himalayan Pink Salt Block and Shaver for their wedding. Part of me, though, knows that the mail is not the most reliable vehicle for sending messages and maybe it got lost, and I don’t want to be half of that Awful Couple that didn’t even RSVP to a wedding invite (and thus lose the Moral High Ground).

My question is thus… we’ve been plopped into an Awkward Spot by having to pick a discreet follow-up versus a discreet Total Fadeout. How to best mitigate it? Which to pick?

Your humble servant,

Uninvited?

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From Kate, your host:

July London meetup as follows:

Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX near Waterloo station, 18th July, 11am onwards.

And it’s time for the bad book swap again!  Bring any book you don’t want any more (too many puns, too few dinosaurs, too much or too little sex, or anything else), take away someone else’s rejects!  Or just come and chat.

This venue is working out really well.

They sell food in a cafe (standard sandwiches etc.), but they also don’t mind people bringing food in from outside. There are several other local places where you can buy stuff as well. The excellent food market outside has loads of different food options, which can fit most food requirements, or you can also bring a packed lunch.
Meet on the fourth floor, outside the Blue Bar (go up in the JCB lift, lift 7, which is bright yellow and quite musical).

Here is the internal map of the Royal Festival Hall: http://www.southbankcentre.co.uk/sites/default/files/documents/RFH_map.pdf

I will have my Cthulhu with me, which looks like this: http://forbiddenplanet.com/3950-cthulhu-baby-plush/  One time I forgot it but I will do my best this time, however if I forget again I will put up a sign. I have long brown hair and glasses.

The venue is accessible via a lift, and has accessible toilets.  Waterloo tube station has step free access on the Jubilee line but not on the Northern line.

The London Awkward group has a Facebook page, which is here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/549571375087294/.  There is also a thread in the new forums for saying hello.

My email is Kate DOT Towner AT Gmail DOT com

Also, last year at Nine Worlds (https://nineworlds.co.uk/, a social justice-flavoured genre convention in London), lots of Awkwardeers were there but couldn’t find each other, so this year they’ve kindly agreed to list us in the programme!  It isn’t up on the website yet, but I understand our meet will be on the Friday afternoon.  Please come so I’m not sat by myself.  :)

(August meetup will also proceed as normal on the 22nd.)

Cheers,
Kate

Enjoy yourselves!

Kate has sent the news:

June London meetup as follows:

Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX near Waterloo station, 20th June, 11am onwards.

Knitting, crochet and other crafts this time.  Please bring projects, or stash, or come and talk to us while we knit.  I can teach knitting to intermediate standard if you want to learn, but others who can teach knitting and crochet are particularly welcome, and please bring stash etc. if you can.

This venue is working out really well.

They sell food in a cafe (standard sandwiches etc.), but they also don’t mind people bringing food in from outside. There are several other local places where you can buy stuff as well. The excellent food market outside has loads of different food options, which can fit most food requirements, or you can also bring a packed lunch.
Meet on the fourth floor, outside the Blue Bar (go up in the JCB lift, lift 7, which is bright yellow and quite musical).

Here is the internal map of the Royal Festival Hall: http://www.southbankcentre.co.uk/sites/default/files/documents/RFH_map.pdf

I will have my Cthulhu with me, which looks like this: http://forbiddenplanet.com/3950-cthulhu-baby-plush/  One time I forgot it but I will do my best this time, however if I forget again I will put up a sign. I have long brown hair and glasses.

The venue is accessible via a lift, and has accessible toilets.  Waterloo tube station has step free access on the Jubilee line but not on the Northern line.

The London Awkward group has a Facebook page, which is here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/549571375087294/.  There is also a thread in the new forums for saying hello.

My email is Kate DOT Towner AT Gmail DOT com

(July meetup will be on the 18th.)

Cheers,
Kate

Enjoy yourselves!

Kate has sent the news about the monthly London gathering. New Yorkers, see the P.S.

May London meetup as follows:

Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX near Waterloo station, 16th May, 11am onwards.

Colouring in again! Please bring stuff to colour, paper, pencils, pens, anything like that. Or just come & chat.
This venue is working out really well.

They sell food in a cafe (standard sandwiches etc.), but they also don’t mind people bringing food in from outside. There are several other local places where you can buy stuff as well. The excellent food market outside has loads of different food options, which can fit most food requirements, or you can also bring a packed lunch.
Meet on the fourth floor, outside the Blue Bar (go up in the JCB lift, lift 7, which is bright yellow and quite musical).

Here is the internal map of the Royal Festival Hall: http://www.southbankcentre.co.uk/sites/default/files/documents/RFH_map.pdf

I will have my Cthulhu with me, which looks like this: http://forbiddenplanet.com/3950-cthulhu-baby-plush/ One time I forgot it but I will do my best this time, however if I forget again I will put up a sign. I have long brown hair and glasses.

The venue is accessible via a lift, and has accessible toilets. Waterloo tube station has step free access on the Jubilee line but not on the Northern line.

The London Awkward group has a Facebook page, which is here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/549571375087294/. There is also a thread in the new forums for saying hello.

My email is Kate DOT Towner AT Gmail DOT com

(June meetup will be on the 20th.)

Cheers,
Kate

PS: I am going to be in NYC from the 22nd to the 31st of May and I would love to meet up with people. If you’re interested please email me, or I’ve started a thread on the forums.

Enjoy the day!

Sal has written with the details for the next LA Awkward MeetUp:

The first LA meetup was a really wonderful, friendly gathering, and
I’m very excited to host another one. Come join us!

Let’s meet on Sunday, May 10 at 10:30am at Barnsdall Park for a
BYO-brunch picnic on the lawn! I will also bring some pens and paper
because I know some truly excellent pen-and-paper games for those who
are interested. You can bring your own food from home, or get food at
any number of nearby places (including the Los Feliz farmers’ market,
which is on Sundays!) Or you can just come and hang out if you prefer.
Barnsdall Park is also on a hilltop, so the lawn treats you to really
lovely views of the city and the Hollywood Hills.

How to find me: I will bring a picnic blanket and also a small stuffed
bat so you can identify me. The lawn at Barnsdall Park is not very
big, so this should not be too difficult.

Barnsdall Park is easily transit-accessible, near the Vermont/Sunset
stop on the Red Line as well as the buses that run on Sunset, Vermont,
and Hollywood. There’s also a small amount of parking inside the park.

I’ve also posted this on the forums, so feel free to ask questions
here or there.

Hope to see you then!

-Sal

Have a lovely time.

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