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#485: Settling the Chaos Muppet within

Before diving into today’s letter, I wanted to put out there that people have requested an update from LW #354. While there is never an obligation to respond once your letter is answered here, if you are comfortable with it people would like to know: Are you okay? Can you pee on the regular now? […]

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#481: My parents acquired a friend for me (with a gross, moldy congealed side of stalking).

Dear Captain Awkward, My problem boils down to this: can I say no, or do I have to be polite?  I’m not a social person. I don’t have friends at the moment. The reasons for that are many –mostly boiling down to living at home again while I look for a job. At school, I had close friends I […]

#480: Post-breakup friend custody with a gross congealed moldy side of stalking

Hi Captain! I’m having a bit of a boundary issue. About six months ago, I ended a one-year relationship that had become deeply dysfunctional. My boyfriend at the time was very depressed, was using drugs, and was by turns distant and emotionally cruel. I still care about him a lot and I know that most […]

#468 and #469: “Hey, knock it off”, or, Constructive Conflict, Continued.

Jolly’s great comment to Monday’s post is going to be very relevant to these seemingly very different questions: “You also don’t necessarily have to bring some of these things up in one big confrontation about The Whole Pattern Of Her Sucking. You could just make a point of standing up for yourself when she does […]

#465: Life after Darth

Hi there, An online friend and I were innocent email buds. One day, we start DMing which leads to texting/phone call. It gets sexual. Tells me he has a live in girlfriend but doesn’t ever say “maybe we shouldn’t go there.” It progresses to constantly talking, texting, gchatting. 2 weeks after we started he flew […]

London Meetup + #462: When is it time to cut off communication with abusive family?

Reminder, monthly London meetup is tomorrow. Sorry for not posting this sooner, guys! It’s been the week of 1000 meetings. Dear Awkward Army, London meetup this weekend, 23rd March!  All welcome. 11:00 am onwards, Leon restaurant, 36/38 Old Compton Street, London, W1D 4TT. The venue so far has worked out well, so I’m sticking with that.  […]

#461: My partner makes hurtful jokes about my health situation.

Dear Captain Awkward: I have had a very complex life in the last couple of years. I have gone from having a fairly normal life in regards to health and then I went on dialysis. Since that point I now have a kidney transplant. My girlfriend currently has a really hard time wrapping her mind […]

#460: Boundaries are good, even if other people don’t enjoy it when you set them.

This is a very smart post on moving on and setting boundaries with an ex from Jenn Vicious at In Our Words: “There’s this thing that sometimes happens when people break up but still care about each other: they want to continue working on things that were problems in their relationship. Don’t do that. My […]

Cohabitation Situations: Ambivalence Deliverance (#451) & Eviction Prescription (#452)

Before we jump into sad, serious things, Gollum dreamed a dream (of coming to your party?) Courtesy of my friend @spyscribe. You guys watch The Lizzie Bennet Diaries, right? Now, some letters about living situations gone bad (#451) and very, very bad (#452). Dearest Captain, I need some help with relationship ambivalence. It’s been 3 years […]

#443: Ending the reign of FEELINGSTERROR (slight edit)

Morning, Dear Captain: I have a friend who I suspect is battling some pretty severe anxiety/depression problems. It makes her extremely defensive and difficult to be around, because literally anything you say can trigger FEELINGSBOMBS packed with rusty nails of self-pity that then require tedious removal and soothing via her preferred social media channels. She […]

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