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Geek Social Fallacies

#488: My friend’s new hobby is grossing everyone out, and, he likes it that way.

Dear Captain Awkward, Things have started getting *awkward* with a good friend of mine, and I need advice on how to handle it. He’s this really quirky guy – I met him through my boyfriend – and since we all have a silly sense of humour we enjoy having a laugh (usually with a good […]

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#481: My parents acquired a friend for me (with a gross, moldy congealed side of stalking).

Dear Captain Awkward, My problem boils down to this: can I say no, or do I have to be polite?  I’m not a social person. I don’t have friends at the moment. The reasons for that are many –mostly boiling down to living at home again while I look for a job. At school, I had close friends I […]

#468 and #469: “Hey, knock it off”, or, Constructive Conflict, Continued.

Jolly’s great comment to Monday’s post is going to be very relevant to these seemingly very different questions: “You also don’t necessarily have to bring some of these things up in one big confrontation about The Whole Pattern Of Her Sucking. You could just make a point of standing up for yourself when she does […]

#463: Help me stop being mean.

Dear Captain Awkward: I am trying to not make this question sound like a pity party, but will probably slip up somewhere. Apologies in advance and gratefulness for making this the space you do. I feel like I am just plain mean a lot of the time.  It’s confusing because I try to be really […]

#446: The Territorial Friend and The Pollyanna Defense

Dear Captain Awkward, Three years ago I picked a new flatmate from a bunch of randoms-off-the-internet and this person turned into one of my besties. Even better, she had a bunch of wicked-cool friends who are now my friends as well, and I’ve brought my own pals into the mix as well.  One of these […]

#419: My friend’s jokes are The Worst. Also, why do we talk about ending friendships forever so much on this blog?

Dear Captain Awkward: I have a friend who makes rape jokes and other sexual jokes that make me uncomfortable. I’ve repeatedly asked him to stop, and he still says this kind of stuff. Also, he touches my arm when we talk and I don’t like it. What I like about our friendship is that he […]

#413: How do I Relationship?

Hi Captain and Awkwardeers! I have a problem that may or may not be an actual problem and is probably easy to solve, but asking friends for answers gave me nothing but contradictory answers, so I thought maybe you could help. I’m young (in college) and just started dating one of my friends. It’s great. […]

#402: Do I have to sit through dinner with someone who was a big jerk to me?

Hi Captain Awkward, At a party over the weekend, I met a woman who was so verbally agressive to me, so insulting and so poisonous, that I still feel a little nauseous today. She’s the girlfriend of someone who I’ll be seeing again and again (he, my boyfriend and I share the same small-world past […]

#396: How do I get my boyfriend to dump his Darth Vader BFF?

Ahoy Captain! My boyfriend grew up around people whom he describes as ‘hateful and angry,’ who would call you [insert slur] if you pointed out their racism and misogyny. Later, he fell in with some really scary addicts. When I met him, the hard drugs and more violent people were gone, but he’s still friends […]

#393: My friends keep inviting my abusive ex and me to the same parties, despite being asked directly not to.

How great is this tip for dealing with people who invade your personal space? Since there’s no transcript at the link, I’ll tell you: When someone comes up behind you and is too close, get visibly and audibly startled ( “Aaaah! Yikes!”) and move back. You want people to turn around and look at what’s […]

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