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#536: My face is a blushing traitor, and creepy older dudes have definitely noticed.

Hey Cap’n & Crew, Fairly straightforward question here. Sometimes my face can be a traitor…it turns bright red and gets really hot at any extreme emotion, particularly embarrassment. I am sure many people can relate! So here’s the question: What would you suggest for scripts for when someone (99.9% of the time it’s an older […]

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It Came from the Search Terms, 14 for 2014

These are edited slightly for punctuation, but otherwise unchanged. Find out how people find this blog! 1. “Do I tell my son’s teacher he has a crush on her?” No. What possible good could come of this? 2. “How to react when your cousin brother loses his mom.” Tell him you are very sorry for […]

Predator Prevention – Links

Edited to Add: Relevant to our interests, here is the great Mikki Kendall, who recently co-launched a blog at Hood Feminism, writing at The Toast about the problem of abusers & enablers in progressive spaces.  /Edit There is a lot of violence and rape culture stuff discussed at these links, so if that’s not stuff you can […]

#497: On “keeping the peace” with an unlikeable mansplainer

Hello Captain Awkward & Team! A couple of years ago my mother met a new partner, A. He has many fine qualities such as being handy with building things, generous with his time and always willing to lend a hand. He makes my mother very happy and I am happy for her. He is also […]

#484: “How do I minimize embarrassment when telling a partner that I have a body and a past?”

Hello Captain and Company! About a year and a half ago I had my primary outbreak of genital herpes. It was excruciating, both physically and emotionally, but I’m finally starting to pick up the pieces and feel like myself again. I’m starting to feel like I maybe want to date again, finally (yay), but I’d […]

#477: I have anxiety that women will have anxiety about me approaching them.

Comments are now closed on this discussion.   <b>Edited To Add</b>: By request, there is a GIANT CONTENT WARNING on this post and the comments. It is not recommended that anyone suffering from anxiety read this post or the comments. Or, really anyone at all. It represents a major, major mistake and unkindness and able-ism […]

#467: How do I help my partner communicate better with his family?

Dear Cap’n, I don’t know how best to help my DH. This message follows us having a long, slightly drunk but happy and loving chat about his life. DH’s family history is complicated. His upbringing includes some things which, when we talk about them, he agrees were “probably abuse”, but explains that he’s somewhat normalised […]

#463: Help me stop being mean.

Dear Captain Awkward: I am trying to not make this question sound like a pity party, but will probably slip up somewhere. Apologies in advance and gratefulness for making this the space you do. I feel like I am just plain mean a lot of the time.  It’s confusing because I try to be really […]

#444: “Do we hug? Because my feeling is that no, we don’t.”

Hi Captain Awkward! I have a social situation question: What do you do if you don’t want to hug someone, but they want to hug you? This has happened to me about three times in the past 6 months, all with guys. I don’t think they were trying anything creepy, just trying to be friendly […]

#440: “It’s time to get out of my abusive home, but I am afraid to accept help.”

Ahoy thar. Cliff notes time! Over the past four years, I: – dropped out of high school for Multiple Reasons – got a fantastic very-part-time clerical job which, although I don’t **LOVE** it 24/7, has great co-workers and doesn’t take up too much brainpower (which is good because I have a history of overloading myself […]


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