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#484: “How do I minimize embarrassment when telling a partner that I have a body and a past?”

Hello Captain and Company! About a year and a half ago I had my primary outbreak of genital herpes. It was excruciating, both physically and emotionally, but I’m finally starting to pick up the pieces and feel like myself again. I’m starting to feel like I maybe want to date again, finally (yay), but I’d […]

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#477: I have anxiety that women will have anxiety about me approaching them.

Comments are now closed on this discussion. I am leaving this answer (& discussion) here – don’t believe in erasing mistakes or pretending they didn’t happen. But putting it behind a cut-tag for sure.  For a better answer to this question, and follow-up from the Letter Writer, go here.

#467: How do I help my partner communicate better with his family?

Dear Cap’n, I don’t know how best to help my DH. This message follows us having a long, slightly drunk but happy and loving chat about his life. DH’s family history is complicated. His upbringing includes some things which, when we talk about them, he agrees were “probably abuse”, but explains that he’s somewhat normalised […]

#463: Help me stop being mean.

Dear Captain Awkward: I am trying to not make this question sound like a pity party, but will probably slip up somewhere. Apologies in advance and gratefulness for making this the space you do. I feel like I am just plain mean a lot of the time.  It’s confusing because I try to be really […]

#444: “Do we hug? Because my feeling is that no, we don’t.”

Hi Captain Awkward! I have a social situation question: What do you do if you don’t want to hug someone, but they want to hug you? This has happened to me about three times in the past 6 months, all with guys. I don’t think they were trying anything creepy, just trying to be friendly […]

#440: “It’s time to get out of my abusive home, but I am afraid to accept help.”

Ahoy thar. Cliff notes time! Over the past four years, I: – dropped out of high school for Multiple Reasons – got a fantastic very-part-time clerical job which, although I don’t **LOVE** it 24/7, has great co-workers and doesn’t take up too much brainpower (which is good because I have a history of overloading myself […]

#439: The dynamic duo of mansplainers

Dear Captain Awkward: This should be a quickie, at least to ask. I have two friends (they’re dating) who constantly argue with me about the field I’m studying in graduate school. They challenge my knowledge about it, and honestly about most everything, up to and including outright telling me I’m wrong about something I just […]

Can men and women be friends? An essay and a website launch.

February 5, 2013: Thanks for all the cool comments and discussion, but I can’t keep up with the moderation demands right now. Comments on this entry are now closed. Yesterday I saw this Tweet.  The piece linked there asks the question: “Can married women have straight male friends?” and suggests that friendships between straight men […]

#433: What if my past as a sex worker hurts my current employment chances?

Hello CA, I am finishing up a PhD in the social sciences, and will be on the academic job market soon. I really want to teach more than anything, either at the university or high school level.  I need advice with regards to something in my past which may or may not come up as […]

#419: My friend’s jokes are The Worst. Also, why do we talk about ending friendships forever so much on this blog?

Dear Captain Awkward: I have a friend who makes rape jokes and other sexual jokes that make me uncomfortable. I’ve repeatedly asked him to stop, and he still says this kind of stuff. Also, he touches my arm when we talk and I don’t like it. What I like about our friendship is that he […]

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