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It Came From The Search Terms, April Showers Edition

Every month(ish) I answer the questions people typed into search engines to find this blog. Except for adding punctuation, I don’t change the wording. Enjoy! 1. “Mother-in-law hates me. How do I tell her I’m pregnant?” That sounds like a job for your spouse, her (presumably) son, who should be doing all or most of […]

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## 556: What’s the difference between “can’t” and “I’m scared, don’t wanna?”

Dear Captain Awkward, I’m a 25-year-old living at home with my parents; I received a BA in English/Creative Writing about two years ago, and I haven’t done much of anything since then. I’ve been struggling with depression and anxiety (especially social anxiety) for practically my whole life, and a couple months ago I was also […]

#541: What kind of financial “help” do I “owe” my uncle?

My feet are cold, but my heart is warm thanks to the generosity of the Winter Pledge Drive contributors. Thank you so much! Support the site if you can! Today’s letter is about money and family and when those things come together in a manipulative and possibly sinister way. Dear Captain Awkward, My parents passed […]

#540: My sister is making my visits home a nightmare.

The Winter Pledge Drive continues! Thanks to those who have given so far. Please consider throwing a few $ in the tip jar if you can. Dear Captain, I have a younger sibling who has a lot of mental health problems. She is still in school and living with our parents, while I am off […]

#533: Can I bar my son’s unlikeable girlfriend from family events?

Dear Captain Awkward: My 27 year old son has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for about 18 months. He was living with a friend until a couple months ago, when he and his girlfriend moved to an apartment. Before the move, his friend came to see my husband and I to talk about […]

#532: Maybe throw a little money at this problem of holiday sleeping arrangements?

Dear Captain Awkward, My bedroom is the house guestroom, and has been as long as I can remember. Usually this isn’t problematic, since I’m up at school most of the year. However, during the holidays it becomes a bit of a problem, when my sister and BIL come to visit. Her old room has been […]

#531: When a parent wants you to be their marriage counselor.

Dear Captain Awkward, So, I’m having trouble with my mom and I’m not sure if it’s a me-problem or a her-problem or a “no one did anything wrong but it’s just uncomfortable” problem. When I started college (and became an adult-ish) my mom has opened up to me about a lot of things that she […]

#530: Annual Holiday Reminder: You Don’t Have to “Celebrate” With People Who Treat You Like Crap

Dear Captain Awkward. You have advised that a person does not “owe” anyone else their time, friendship, or anything, and I agree with this. However, I am struggling with being on the receiving end of this. My mother in law stopped speaking to me. And I feel SO MUCH anger and hurt over this; I […]

It Came From the Search Terms

Now and then it’s interesting to see the search terms that bring people here, and, since they are in the form of a question, give some short answers. I’ve added punctuation but otherwise left the texts unaltered. “Pushing someone to accept something they aren’t ready to.” Is doomed. You can maybe get someone to say […]

#516: Accepting a family member’s African Violet with grace

Hi Cap and Co. To get right into it: when I was 15, my aunt, who had until that point been a very large figure in my life, cut herself and her nuclear family off from my nuclear family for the foreseeable future. To put into broad terms, my family did something that, while intended […]

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