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It Came From The Search Terms: SMARCH

The monthly(ish) roundup of the questions people type into search engines to find this blog. 1. “My partner thinks I have genital warts but I have herpes what do I do?” Both of you should get a full STI screen, if you haven’t already, and talk about whatever you find there. (‘Cause maybe it’s both). […]

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#543: I can’t sleep because my first prospect for a “real” relationship might secretly be a furry.

Hi Captain, I’m afraid I’ve ruined something. I don’t feel comfortable talking with my support team about this yet for reasons that will soon be apparent. Backstory: I am a woman in my later twenties whose longest relationship ever lasted 6 months (and honestly it’s stretching it to call it a relationship). This is not […]

It Came from the Search Terms, 14 for 2014

These are edited slightly for punctuation, but otherwise unchanged. Find out how people find this blog! 1. “Do I tell my son’s teacher he has a crush on her?” No. What possible good could come of this? 2. “How to react when your cousin brother loses his mom.” Tell him you are very sorry for […]

It Came From the Search Terms

Now and then it’s interesting to see the search terms that bring people here, and, since they are in the form of a question, give some short answers. I’ve added punctuation but otherwise left the texts unaltered. “Pushing someone to accept something they aren’t ready to.” Is doomed. You can maybe get someone to say […]

#484: “How do I minimize embarrassment when telling a partner that I have a body and a past?”

Hello Captain and Company! About a year and a half ago I had my primary outbreak of genital herpes. It was excruciating, both physically and emotionally, but I’m finally starting to pick up the pieces and feel like myself again. I’m starting to feel like I maybe want to date again, finally (yay), but I’d […]

#482: Sexy drunk texts vs. sober rejection: I don’t know what to believe!

Hi Captain: There is this totally awesome and beautiful girl in some of my graduate classes. I sat next to her and before I knew it we started texting a lot and it looked like it was leading to something more. I tried taking her out to dinner but once she had something come up […]

#444: “Do we hug? Because my feeling is that no, we don’t.”

Hi Captain Awkward! I have a social situation question: What do you do if you don’t want to hug someone, but they want to hug you? This has happened to me about three times in the past 6 months, all with guys. I don’t think they were trying anything creepy, just trying to be friendly […]

#350: Let’s crowdsource some feminist sex ed for frat guys.

Dear Captain Awkward, Due to a current organizing position I hold I have been asked to deliver brief presentations to each of the Greek chapters on my campus discussing the importance of women’s reproductive health issues in the upcoming election and subsequently registering people to vote while perhaps even sneaking in tidbits about safe sex […]

#347: A Consent Question

Dear Captain Awkward, I’m a single woman that just got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship. I’m not very relationship savvy (who is?) and this was my first *real* relationship, but I have always made a point of having clear boundaries and been all about enthusiastic consent. If I wasn’t in the mood I […]

The C-Word

Hello there, Entire Internet! Thank you for stopping by. Edited to Add: As of Monday, 8/13 I’ve locked commenting on this post. The moderation demands are overwhelming. Thanks for your constructive contributions! We’ll pick this discussion back up another time.</EDIT> ————– Right now I’m fielding a lot of emails and comments from guys who are […]


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